Beautiful Survivors, YOU MATTER

Survivors, We all Matter.  Pass on the Love.

Survivors, We all Matter. Pass on the Love.

Uncommon Graces introduced the idea of writing an open letter to our readers and fellow bloggers.  She wants to spread the idea of compassion and send the message out that each person matters. I love the idea.  I adapted it to address survivors, but I believe everyone matters, no lives are disposable.  There are days when it is hard to keep going when you are processing past trauma and abuse, yet we all must keep going on this journey.  There is light at the end of the tunnel.  We all have so much to offer the world.  Here is my letter in the form of a poem…

Even when you hurt

When days feel blurry and never ending

Know you are not alone

Know you must go on

You must get out of bed

Put one foot in front of another.

Look in the mirror and say


I belong here.

I am going to stay.

Each of us possesses a gift.

Each of us is beautiful.

We paint.

We write.

We photograph.

We encourage.

Continue sharing your gifts.

Because you matter beautiful survivors.

As Auntie reassured me in the depths of hell “you are loved.”  I extend her message, her heart to you all.  YOU MATTER.

Love and peace


Speaking Openly About Mental Health Isn’t Brave, It’s Responsible – By Mark Freeman

Mark Freeman talks about the issue of mental health which many are afraid to discuss. I find it liberating to share if only through the writen word. Gradually, I’m telling my story to a few trusted individuals. Each time a weight is lifted from my shoulders. The more we talk the more attention we bring to mental health the healthier we will all be.

5 Tips for Writing a Memoir

Will Boast’s five tips for writing a memoir is a helpful resource for survivors who are ready to share their stories. His advice about memoir being the” art of selection and arrangement” is so true. In my memoir there seems to be many pieces to connect and others to ditch. Straight chronological order does not always show the connection between past and present.

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From Publishers Weekly Daily | Dec 05, 2014

5 Tips for Writing a Memoir

Will Boast’s standout memoir Epilogue is about the death of his mother, father, and brother. Both a wrenching exploration of grief and a moving story of remembrance, it’s a must-read. Boast shares five rules for writing memoirs.

By Will Boast

As I suspect many writers do, I took the long way round to writing a memoir. It took me nearly three years of trying to cram my subject matter into a novel manuscript before I understood that the story I wanted to tell would fit better into nonfiction. When I finally I came to the memoir form, I had only a vague notion of how such a book might be put together. It took me another five years to finish the manuscript that became Epilogue. As provisional and context-specific as they may be, here are a…

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You don’t need empathy to support a depressed person

“You don’t need empathy to support a depressed person” was originally blogged at Under Reconstruction. It was a relief to finally find another person’s voice that spoke of how hurtful it is when loved ones back away when we are mentally ill because they don’t know what to say. They rub against an old abandonment wound. For me, one of my biggest issues. We really just want them to walk beside us even if they say nothing.

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When a friend was hospitalized for appendicitis, people flocked to visit him at the hospital. When I was clinically depressed, some who knew it avoided me like the plague. But I completely understand — it’s natural for us to be afraid of the unfamiliar, including unfamiliar illnesses. And when it comes to depression, people are wary not because they are afraid it might be contagious (hey, many don’t even recognize it as an illness!), but because they are afraid of saying the “wrong” thing.

A friend once apologized to me, “I’m sorry I haven’t been reaching out to you or being there for you. I’m not like J — I wish I were, but I’m not. But know that I’ve been praying for you, okay?”

At the time, I smiled and told him not to worry about it. I read between the lines and I read his facial expressions — I…

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Yoga Therapy

This afternoon, I went to Yoga.  I learned more things from my own body.

The strongest part of my body is my legs, which I have always used to run from things and people.  The weakest parts are my shoulders, chest, lower back, pelvic area and gluts.  I was whipped so much on the behind with a belt that I can still feel my gluts sting and tighten.  My hips lock up like Fort Knox, not wanting to open without a million breaths.

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